Power of Positivity
Written By: Fiona Thomson
130 days ago I started this Positive Affirmation jar where I’d write a positive “I am” statement about myself. I would say the “I am” statement out loud and then place it in the jar. It started off as a 21 day experiment which has turned into an ongoing wellness activity.
It’s not always easy to be kind to yourself. Some days were a lot harder to be nice to myself. The start of 2018 was a bit rough for me emotionally. I had experienced something very traumatic in my life and was affected very deeply. My emotions took a whirlwind roller coaster ride.
Without going into too much detail of what happened to me, let’s just say it was probably the lowest point in my life to date. I had been caught in between a rock and hard place and had no where to go. Only few people knew of my story because I’m not one to share my life’s problems with the whole world and especially not on social media. Whenever I was in a public setting, I’d have a big smile on my face even though my heart was in agony. The expression “fake it until you make it” couldn’t have been more true.
Only the people who really know me knew something wasn’t right. I am truly grateful for amazing friends and family who supported me and cared for me during my difficult time. I’m not sharing this story so you feel pity on me. Nor am I sharing this story so you’ll give me attention. I write as a therapy to heal my heart. The main purpose of this story is to help teach you the power of positivity.
(Fiona is wearing Secret Lives... Time Flies Yoga Capris)
I could have easily took a downward spiral into a dark depression or even worse shut myself off from the outside world. But it doesn’t matter how angry, hurt or disappointed I am there’s always a tiny spark of positivity deep down inside me. All I had to do was ignite it into a glowing burst of sunshine happiness. It was not easy during those first couple months because I was deeply hurt. People tell me all the time that I’m overly sensitive and I really take things to heart. That may be true but I will never apologize for how something makes me feel in my heart. Not only do I wear my heart on my sleeve, I wear my heart all over my body and everywhere around me.
Unfortunately, sometimes when you want something so badly your judgement is clouded of what is actually happening. For me it was just bad timing. Everything happens for a reason and it most definitely teaches a lesson. Sometimes the lesson is not what you wanted but it reminds you of what you really want in life and how far you are willing to go just to get it.
After going through all the emotions of sadness, anger, denial, guilt, fear, love, happiness, joy, contentment etc. I needed to be at peace. Not just with my situation but with myself. I refused for negative emotions to take over me or my body. I wanted inner peace.
“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~Lao Tzu
So rewind to the “I am” statement positive affirmation jar. I had stopped during my difficult month. I realized how much worse I felt when I stopped. I made it a point, to make it a regular habit to write a positive statement and then say it out loud. Saying is believing. I also began reading Ask and It Is Given. Learning to Manifest Your Desires by Ester and Jerry Hicks.
I found this book quite helpful to get out of my negative mind set and truly manifest positive aspects in my life. Basically it has taught me whatever I think or feel, I can manifest it to make it happen in reality. The law of attraction in a nutshell. Another great resource I am using is Louise Hay’s Power Thought Cards and Gabrielle Bernstein’s The Universe Has Your Back cards.
Some much needed positive thoughts written on cards to help influence my mind and heart. I pull a random card every other day from each deck. The cards are uplifting and inspirational. Something so simple as pulling a card could make me feel so happy and positive. I try to have a positive outlook throughout my day and every night I say 10 things I’m grateful for each day.
Top 10 Things I’m Grateful for everyday
- Clean water
Some days I rebound and bounce back into my emotionally driven state. Where I am thinking about my situation and everything I went through and start balling my eyes out. However, I don’t stay in that place. Immediately, I am reminded that I am stronger than yesterday. I’m learning to let go and move on. It makes no sense to dwell on the past for something that cannot be changed.
One of my favourite quotes is the Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
It’s perfectly normal to have days where you are unhappy but how quickly you bounce back is what really matters. I can’t say I’m back to normal but I’m definitely going in the right direction. I like to believe if that was my darkest moment in life it can only get better from here on out. Staying positive is thinking there’s always a light at the end of tunnel. No matter what struggles and hardships I had to endure I am a survivor. What doesn’t kill me definitely makes me stronger.
“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.” ~Bruce Lee
I can’t speak for everyone because everyone has their own issues they are going through. I appreciate kindness it always fills my heart with happiness. Sometimes the best therapy is a heart to heart hug followed by a “How are you?” You never know who’s day you’re going to make by saying those words. I am truly blessed to be surrounded by so many loving people who support me and treat me with the utmost respect. Though I have not lived an easy life it has been a great life. I am grateful for everything that I have and the people in my life. Each day is a new day and it’s better to start each day with a grateful heart. Peace, love and positive vibes.
I have decided to be happy because it is good for my health. ~ Voltaire